Hi Mindy, That’s a nice offer by your ex-husband’s spouse, but I don’t think she is going to be able to transfer her Post 9/11 GI Bill benefits to your son. It’s a complicated issue and she might want to give it a try to get an official VA determination, but after doing a little bit of research I think they are going to deny her request.
Post 9/11 GI Bill benefits can be transferred to eligible dependent children and where I think she is going to run into a problem is with the VA’s definition of the word “dependent.” The VA defines the word as “having constructive control” or supplying more than 1/2 of total support and I don’t think your ex-husband’s spouse fits either definition. If your ex-husband was in the military, then he could transfer his benefits, but I don’t believe it will work when the service member is your son’s step-mother and your son lives with you.
The Post 9/11 GI Bill can only be transferred to Dependents registered in DEERS so the spouse of the ex-husband would have to have legal documents showing support to meet the requirement for the children to be enrolled onto the DEERS program in her name.
The ex-husband is incorrect.